Which is the biggest obstacle that keeps people from having the relationship they want the most?
At the beginning of most relationships, great fun, excitement, and play rule. Each partner behaves in the best way: pour out affection and kindness. Expectations are high and, for the moment, needs are being met easily and frequently.
However, after a while, things change and it seems that more and more effort is required to maintain the spark. Each of the partners may feel that they want to “cash in” on all the affection they have poured out and take a break to just sit back and receive the outpouring of love that they were used to.
Little by little, when they feel that they are no longer being cared for in the same way, each one withdraws their affections a little, lamenting the fact that the spark is gone. By the way, discover that the relationship is NOT the solution to your problems and many move on to the next person at this point. Since they don’t understand the dynamics of relationships, they only want the easy part, not the work part.
It is important to think about relationships as a platform to give, rather than receive
There are several reasons why relationships fail:
1). The Law of Familiarity: As emotion wanes, negative “anchors” slowly erode, replacing the original, positive ones.
A. Make sure you don’t focus on the other person when you are in a negative state.
B. Use Pattern’s interruptions to each other in a playful way to help keep discussions under control.
two). Since we all have unique triggers or “anchors” that we associate with feeling love and attraction. We just need to learn to consistently comply with those strategies.
R. Some of us prefer to be shown that we are loved: special looks, or take us to special places or even buy things.
B. Other people need words of love even in a certain tone of voice.
C. Even others need to be touched in a certain way, p. Eg a gentle touch or the need for a tight hug so they know you care passionately.
Since everyone is different, you should know how your partner feels about love.
So you’ve found the relationship you want and want to last. What has to happen to maintain and improve it?
1). First, find out what strategy your partner prefers to feel loved, then consistently write it down.
two). Don’t get caught up in the “Do it first, then I’ll do it” game. Learn to give what you most want to receive.
A. Use your enthusiasm to improve the quality of your relationship.
B. Try asking questions that stimulate the expression of love.
C. Work together to create memories and plan those special moments to keep the spontaneous spark of the game alive.
Without a total commitment to your relationship, you cannot create or maintain anything of lasting and measurable value in life.
Your assignment:
1). Identify what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship. Write them down.
two). What must the relationship be for you to be happy with yourself and effectively contribute to your continued growth?
3). Create a list of fun and unique things that you can share together on an ongoing basis.
There is a lot of information about relationships. These are just a few tips that I hope will be helpful.
Let me know how you feel about all these ideas. Specifically, what are your relationships like? How do you maintain it?
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