My teenage son is active in boffing. Actually, my whole family are boffers! And I am often asked why a mother like me would encourage family members of all ages to continue to participate in this exercise.
Actually, it’s simple.
Keeps a family together. Our whole family loves boffing. Yes, starting with what some would call “oldies” like my husband and I all the way up to our 10 year old son, we all love to fuck! Even when our oldest daughter comes, she won’t hesitate to grab a boffer and go for it. (yes, it’s still an outdoor thing, not in the house please) But never be too old to smile and laugh.
Stimulates the imagination. With boffers, you can be king of the hill, or fight a dragon and rescue a prince (you won’t find me waiting to be rescued), or take on a pirate captain like Davey Jones. There is no limit to what you can imagine and I like that in a game.
It is not a video game. You don’t need to have other stuff to use it and it gets people off the couch.
There is no age limit! While it may be harder for a little one to hold onto a boffer, I can play with a four or sixty year old. And no, you are never too old to play. When we go to SCA events, you see a wide range of ages participating in boffing. It is also very likely that you will see the whole family there together. And a close-knit family features prominently in my books!
It is safe! You know if you ever had brothers and sisters who grew up at some point you got into whatever they were doing. Well, sometimes kids don’t take into account that older siblings or friends may not be fighting as hard as they seem. And older siblings are more likely to be careful where they hit. I like the fact that this is safer than the sticks and broomsticks I used for swords as a kid. Especially using the SoftSwords my son makes!
I’m not channeling my mom, yes I loved my mom, but everyone can remember something their parents said to this day (whether true or not) that makes them cringe. And among the phrases that I remember so much from my mother (to tell the truth she was sometimes someone else’s mother) yelling at my friends and me were the following; “Stop that instant!” “You’re going to gouge someone’s eye out if you keep this up!” or my favorite “It’s all fun and games until I have to take someone to the hospital” (That was true and Tommy Morris, wherever you are, I still cringe when I think of how I hit you with that baseball bat when you didn’t ). I don’t believe everyone when they said “Don’t stand there, man, she drops the bat.” I’m sorry). With boffing, I never have that concern!
Size is not always an advantage. When I was a child, I had two older brothers who did not hesitate to use me as a punching bag. Yes, my parents threatened to punish me if I didn’t tell on my brothers, but my brothers always threatened to beat me up if I did. So either way it was not going to be fun, so if I’d had boffers back then, maybe my childhood would have been less painful. I think it’s great that you can be smaller than someone and still eliminate them. The bigger person might have the reach, but one of my favorite shots goes to the knees and I don’t have to duck to get there.
You don’t need a caravan to transport equipment! Boffers go almost anywhere. It’s easy to fit them into a full car when we go camping or anywhere we go. We took them to the lake and bought soft foam water balls and played water baseball. We take boffers on picnics and to the park. We never hesitate to share when we see someone watching us go. We even take them and take them with us to local festivals when we think there might be other like-minded people out there.
But my favorite reason is: People smile when they are good. It’s not something they don’t even know they’re doing. It might not start out as a smile for some people, but if you give someone a boffer and they forget about their surroundings and start looking for you, the smile will show up every time. And as a mother and a person, I think smiles count a lot.
So as a mother, there’s not one thing I like about fucking. But as you can see, there are many things about boffing that the whole family can like and enjoy. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
