On why hate is necessary in this world and helps refine our basic aggression
Hate or hate like love is one of the most personal emotions in that the expressions can be very varied and even too subtle to decipher. Hate is truly the opposite of love because the manifestation of hate is almost like the manifestation of love. This is because in most cases only two people, the hater and the hated, seem to perceive the underlying dynamics of the relationship or the emotions involved and other people may not. There can be various reasons for hate and this could be associated with envy, fear, ideology or power related issues. For example, intense envy towards a brother can make other brothers hate him or a fear of repression from powerful people can generate hatred in less privileged people. Power issues can often lead to hate or even a love-hate relationship, as a man who feels in control or domination of his wife can get into power struggles or a kind of love-hate relationship. with her. A terrorist or religious group might hate people from other groups because of ideological differences.
Hate, like love, needs some form of attachment, you have to care enough about a person to hate them. Hate like love would also be quite obsessive and addictive, although just as extreme (especially romantic) love for one person would lead to sexual intercourse, extreme hatred for one person would lead to violence. Thus, hate is also a form of passion, manifested as aggression rather than sex. Thus, if according to Freudian psychoanalysis, sex and aggression are our two basic instincts, love and hate are our two basic and most fundamental emotions on which all other emotions are built. A newborn child would either love her mother’s breast or hate it, would love to be touched and carried by her caregivers or would hate the process and this would result in her other emotions of happiness, sadness, etc.
Considering how or why hate between individuals might manifest itself, it is possible to delineate the two types of hate in people:
1. personal hate – This can be the dynamic with a friend or an enemy, a colleague, a relative or someone you know within a social circle. Personal hate is for people you know personally and care about enough to hate them. The manifestation of this type of hatred is usually subtle and only two people involved would understand or perceive the effects of the emotion. With family members like a partner or a parent, personal hatred could manifest as a love-hate interaction as power dynamics enter the picture. Power struggles with father or husband could often lead to this type of love-hate equation and it would reflect on your other close personal relationships. Personal hate can often lead to a more general form of hate. This leads to the next type of hate.
2. general hate – Therefore, hate can be very personal or it can be more general and directed towards a group. This type of hate is directed towards certain groups or types of people and manifests itself in hate for whites, hate for blacks, hate for Jews, hate for Muslims, hate for men, hate for women, etc. This type of hatred is more generalized although it may well be triggered by personal experiences. For example, a woman with negative experiences with a man may develop hatred towards all men or a black man who has faced some form of discrimination in society may develop hatred towards all white men. This type of hate can be racially motivated or gender related, and of course these have specific terms like antisemitism, misogyny, etc. This type of hate is less personal and is shared with other members of society and is therefore more of a social form of hate than a personal type of hate. Terrorist groups that show hatred towards specific nations or people share this type of hatred motivated by ideological orientations. Politicians who hate members of another party are also motivated by ideological or power concerns. General or group-based hate is further classified as social, sexual or gender-based, racial, or ideological hate.
The underlying psychological dynamics of hate are usually explained by our need to release aggression. Aggression like sex is one of our fundamental and basic instincts and just as we need to release our sexual energies by developing sexual relationships and exploring the emotion of love, the emotion of hate helps us release our aggressive tendencies and could be critical to our well-being. being. It is almost necessary to hate as it is necessary to love. But this does not mean that our aggressive tendencies and hateful emotions have to be released through violence or some other kind of destructive action, the hate we feel cannot be controlled just as love can be uncontrolled but our actions on these Emotions can be controlled. For example, you may love someone for many months or even years, but you decide not to act on it and start a kind of platonic love relationship. Similarly, it is possible to hate someone and yet carry on with some kind of platonic hate relationship without becoming violent or even subtly aggressive.
Properly channeling or directing sexual or amorous needs through creativity and, in Freudian terms, ‘sublimation’ works well for hate and hate can be successfully channeled through sport or other aggressive activity. Even love or sexual needs can be controlled or channeled when you participate in aggressive sports. So the next time you feel the urge to release your passion, possibly caused by sexual or aggressive instincts, just take part in some aggressive competitive sports and you will feel much better. If you feel excessive love, which is a more refined type of sexual need, you may need to engage in creative pursuits. In a way, hate could also be a refined form of aggression, and releasing hate through writing, discussion, or constructive criticism could be a creative outlet.
Hate, as I have tried to explain here, is not that bad, it is a form of passion, a necessary release from our aggressive instincts and, in fact, a refined expression of aggression, just as love is a more refined expression of the sexual desires. If love is a sugar coating on our true sexual desires, hate is just a salt coating on our underlying aggressive desires. The emotion of love exists as a valve, as a filter so that human sexual expression remains controlled and civilized. Similarly, the emotion of hate exists so that the human expression of aggression remains controlled and within limits. You will see many banners, billboards and flyers asking people in this world to somehow ‘Stop the Hate’, which seems like some kind of motto for human life. It is virtually impossible to stop hate, it is a basic human emotion, and in a civilized society it is almost necessary to hate as much as it is necessary to love lest there be a rampant release of aggression through violence. However, what we can stop is the negative expression of hate that manifests itself through violence and other destructive tendencies and channel our aggressive tendencies creatively through art, literature, politics, sports, public debates and other constructive channels of self-expression.
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