Okay, you’re interested in getting to know that beautiful woman from the office better. You email her and ask for lunch and her phone number. She gives you her phone number and you… SEND HER A MESSAGE? Nope! Not unless you’re okay with being alone.
There’s no denying that texting is the new “talk” when it comes to cell phone communication. You can send your friends a quick “be there in a minute” text or quickly catch up with a colleague here and there, but when it comes to the world of dating, texting is usually a slap in the face for most of us. women. In particular, those over the age of 25 who didn’t text in their teens.
There are many women who are perfectly fine with casual texting back and forth for dates and meetings. However, we are not talking about the majority of women. We are talking about THE woman. A woman who had a good dad growing up and really knows her worth. She’s not the type to jump into bed on the first night. We’re talking about the woman who accepts nothing less than being pursued and if you’re not up to the challenge, she’s not interested. She that kind of girl. The kind that we hunters love, even if we don’t admit it.
If you are really interested in a woman and she has given you her number (a good sign that she is interested), then you have to swallow that lump in your throat, risk rejection and CALL HER. If she doesn’t answer, be sure to leave a message on her machine. She will respect your bravery. She’ll be flattered, and isn’t that what you want? Leave her phone number and ask her to call you back at some point.
When we text a woman and ask her to call us or reply without calling when we have her phone number, it gives one of two impressions: a) you’re a wimp, or b) you’re just not interested and probably just looking a piece of ass Either way, she’ll likely be put off by your lack of follow-up and it’s unlikely you’ll hear from her until you actually make the phone call, or it’ll be brief and she might lose interest.
Now, we know there’s this unspoken rule that someone made up in seventh grade that you can’t call a girl for a few days after you get her number or you’ll seem desperate. WRONG! Girls want to be pursued (at least the self-respecting ones) and they want a guy to let them know they like him. Waiting too long to call her or, worse yet, send her a text makes her feel unimportant and uninteresting to you. She’ll feel like you’re either not interested in her for anything substantial or that you have a bunch of other women you’re dating and you’re a player.
The absolute longest you should wait would be 3 days and that is pushing you. I once waited almost 2 weeks to contact a girl I was interested in and then I emailed her. I never heard from her. Later I saw her in a grocery store in the small town where she lived at the time. I asked her why I never heard from her and she finally admitted that she was hurt that it took me so long to get in touch with her, she assumed I shouldn’t be interested in her romantically and said she had enough. friends.
So what do you do if you’ve already screwed up? Do you think that the girl is not interested and you did not handle things well? Well, there is no better time to call her and take a risk. Listen, if she gave you her phone number and she’s contacted you, she’s probably interested in you. The best thing you can do as a man is chase her. If she rejects you, then there is no harm, there is no fault.
Other indicators for success. You need to ask her out on a specific day and time. NO and I repeat, do not ask him to call you and tell you when it suits him. You are the man, you must ask the question. If her date and time don’t work, she will suggest a different time at that time. But you should be the one to choose the places and ask the dates and pick it up and pay. I know a little old fashioned. Be a gentleman. Be a man. Be brave.
Let her be the lady. Unless it’s not a lady you’re looking for.
