Saving a relationship that is faltering or that recently ended is not as impossible as it sounds. But fixing your relationship in the short term is only part of the equation. If nothing has really changed, it will soon be over for good. Instead, discover simple changes you can make to keep your lover coming back for more, forever!
What went wrong?
There is a pattern to how relationships end. It begins when one of the members of the couple is vaguely unhappy with things, but does not know why. So instead of expressing their unhappiness, they decide it must be the other person’s fault and they start to secretly leave.
Whether your partner is in the process of leaving or has already left, you can bring them back. I’m going to tell you a little secret: boredom is the number one reason people feel dissatisfied and start dating.
Think about the first time you met. You had a life of your own, friends to hang out with, and activities that you enjoyed doing. That is what made you attractive and exciting. Too many of us give up all of that to make our lives revolve around our partner like the earth revolves around the sun. Your partner is not the center of the universe and does not want to be! Behaving like them takes all the mystery and excitement out of the relationship and leaves your partner feeling bored or even suffocated.
First rule of thumb: never lose yourself in the relationship.
Healthy men want an independent woman. Healthy women want strong, self-reliant men. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who needs them so much that they can’t have a life for themselves.
People chase after things they think they can’t have, and the thrill of the chase is part of the thrill of a new relationship. Help yourself to a silver platter and the challenge is over. Your partner is bored. And in his mind boredom = falling out of love.
So get your life back from now on! Pick up your old hobbies. Reconnect with friends and make them a priority. Take care of your appearance as if you are starting to date again. Bring back the person your partner fell in love with, and something else!
Second rule to follow: Learn to dance (“I need space”)
There is a certain type of dance that happy couples do. It is a constant cycle of joining and separating that prevents them from stepping on their toes.
The best way to save a relationship is to give your partner plenty of space when they need it and / or ask for it. Some people need more space than others (usually men!), But everyone needs alone time and distance from their partner at least once in a while. So don’t take it personally and try not to see it as permanent.
Giving someone enough time and space to miss you is a great way to keep a relationship fresh and exciting. When you reconnect, be sure to do so in a nice and welcoming way. Resentment and guilt trips are not a way to save a relationship or bring an ex back.
If you are divided, this is very, very important! Even if all you want to do is hear his voice or hold him back in your arms, chasing an ex never works. In fact, it can completely ruin your chances. Leave your partner alone and he’ll come back when he’s ready, especially if you follow rule no. 1.
