As most of us can realize, most teens are not mature enough to think critically and really understand life. For example, they do bad things, they don’t know how to act, and they don’t even think about the consequences of what they do. There are times when I sit quietly wondering why teenage marriage is legal and possible, but I can’t find an answer. As various studies or statistics have shown, teen marriage is legal and possible in almost all countries, and more than fifty percent of teens who marry divorce in less than twenty years. Today, after taking my time to think critically and carefully about some characteristics that cause most teenage marriages to end unhappily, three fundamental characteristics come to mind. Teen marriages are likely to end unhappily because teens are not mature enough; they do not have adequate economic or financial support; or they have a lack of relationship experiences.
As most people know, maturity is one of the main characteristics that a marriage should have. It helps both partners to know how to think, how to act, or how to respond to some difficult situations or circumstances. Most teens do not have the ability to think reasonably because they behave childishly, or they are simply too immature to remain reasonably when stressed. For example, a friend of mine is named Jean and he married a young woman at the age of fifteen. After a couple of months, problems began to arise in their relationship, such as jealousy and others. Jean did not know how to act positively towards his wife and how to respond to these tremendous problems, but he pretended that using profanity and fighting with his wife were the best ways to overcome those problems. Unfortunately, after a couple of years, Jean and his wife divorced. When such situations are present in a relationship, it is important or crucial that both partners rationally communicate with each other to find a suitable way to resolve them. But what was wrong with Jean? What made you act like this? Most of us will say because he was immature. People who are mature enough are less likely to fight or disrespect their wives to solve a problem.
On the other hand, it is difficult for adolescents to find jobs that pay more than the average salary because most of them do not have high educational levels. As a result, they need to have more than one job to support their families, which does not give them enough time to continue their education. At times, they can have problems with their partners when they cannot take care of the needs of their families, which are paying rent or bills, providing food, shelter and others, so economic difficulties can cause problems and divorces in their relationships.
Lack of relationship experiences can cause teenage marriages to end unhappily and bring problems in their relationships, such as cheating, jealousy, and others. For example, a young man named Johnny got a girl pregnant at the age of fourteen, and both parents made the decision to marry them while they were in school. After a couple of years of marriage, Johnny saw other beautiful girls and told his wife that he was very sorry to marry her because she is not his type. Problems preoccupied his relationships, and he began to cheat on his wife and treat her badly. Unfortunately, after a couple of years, they got divorced. In this kind of situation, what caused you to get divorced? It was simply a lack of experience that Johnny had about relationships because he got married when he was a teenager.
For us to be successful in our marriages, we must have an adequate level of maturity to respond to some difficult situations that may take place in our relationships, and we must have adequate financial support and relationship experiences. Because without one of them, problems can arise. When it comes to teenagers, most of them are not mature enough, their financial situations are unresponsive to marriage, and they have a lack of experience with relationships. These are some of the characteristics that can give us the reasons why most teenage marriages are likely to end unhappily.
