There is no other place more frustrating than an intimate relationship in which it is always you who sacrifices your feelings, your emotions, your desires, your needs, your desires to be for the other person. You keep understanding them, while you keep putting your feelings on the back burner. After a while, it will be exhausting to always be the one to attend to someone else’s feelings. Do you feel that you are the one who is constantly giving and giving and giving and giving something else to the other person without receiving anything in kind?
While it is true that each person shares in their own way, however, a good indicator of how much each person is giving is if they feel exhausted and feel like they have nothing else to give. You feel exhausted, you feel taken advantage of, and you feel that you don’t matter, that you are only there to serve the other person.
Chances are, you’ve forgotten your own existence in this whole thing. That doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve done something bad yourself. Maybe you’ve always been the understanding one. You continue to understand what the other person is going through, so you became disinterested for that person, leaving yourself aside. You probably didn’t want to feel like you were being selfish thinking only of yourself. However, while you were selflessly for that person, that person was selfishly only for himself and was not for you at all.
It’s time to regain your sanity, self-respect, self-love, and pride. If you find that you are always caring for someone else while they are just taking care of themselves, then it’s time to get away from that person and start taking care of yourself. While there is nothing wrong with being for others, we must always remember that our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual selves are equally important, so we must pay attention to ourselves as well, if not more.
A selfless person will always be attracted to a selfish person. Why? Because they are the same. How is that you can ask? Well, a person who is selfless is actually selfish. They are being selfish to themselves as the selfish person is only to themselves. Please don’t be confused. If we haven’t learned how to be for ourselves, how to care for our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being first, then we will find ourselves feeling drained and resentful of those for whom we are being selfish. less.
To be truly unselfish to others, we need to edify ourselves emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Only when we are fully charged within ourselves can we truly serve others unconditionally. Then we can move away from a position of inner strength and power to be for others. That doesn’t mean that no one should take advantage of your selfless nature. Your personal and intimate relationships should be a place of deep intimacy, deep sharing, open communication, without emotional manipulation, deep and sincere love. If your intimate relationship is minor, then that is not a safe or healthy place for you.
Truth be told, those you are always caring for have every right to be selfish. You’re already there doing everything for them, caring for them, so it’s no wonder they’re being selfish. They love being cared for and who would refuse to be cared for. It is said that you cannot change a person’s actions, but you can change your reaction.
Personally, I prefer another version of that statement: “You cannot change a person’s actions, but you can certainly change your actions.” If you discover that you feel exhausted, resentful, angry at how much of yourself you are sacrificing for that other person, you discover that it is you who constantly understands them, waits for them, while they live their lives. , ignoring you, then it’s time to get your life back. It is time to start serving you.
It’s time to stop sacrificing your well-being, your life, and your future for someone who only cares about himself. If you find that you are always the only one who cares for other people and they are taking advantage of you, then stop. Yes, yes, I know it can’t stop right away, all at once. However, once you are aware of what you have been doing, you can now take steps to move away from the person who is being selfish and begin to focus on your own well-being and well-being.
You have the right to change anything in your life that does not make you happy. If you always feel exhausted, then it is time to reposition the compass of your life so that it begins to rotate in the direction of your pole star. Maybe it’s time to divert your attention from that person and start creating your passionate life. It is time to move your life forward. You, as much as anyone else, deserve a happy and beautiful life. It is your birthright, so don’t sell your birthright.
If you are constantly caring for another person, you are always giving, giving and giving, and they are taking, taking and taking, you are selling your birthright. Not only is that person not for you in the short or long term, but you are giving someone else your happiness, your life while leaving you with nothing. Take back your happiness, take back your life. When the time is right, in Divine timing, the Universe will send someone into your life who will hold your hand and tell you: “Let’s walk together.” ~ For starlit beach walks! ~ 🙂
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