Girls hate good guys and love jerks.
Right?
Something like.
See, good guys aren’t really good guys. They are “scared” guys. Anytime you’re about to say something, or want to say something, but stop because you’re worried about what the other person might think or say, you automatically place yourself in the “nice guy” category.
But “nice” actually means “too safe”. Why are these guys repulsive to women? They want a guy who is not afraid of society. They want a guy who can stand on his own two feet. A guy who can’t even express himself honestly with her already fails big time.
Now why do idiots have so much action? Because they don’t stop. They do not base their communication and expression on what other people may think. Well actually they do.
They are afraid of a certain reaction, most likely rejection, and believe it or not, they use the same strategy as the nice guy.
Nice guys are afraid of rejection, so they say “nice things” that won’t get rejected.
Idiots are also afraid of rejection, so they say “bad things” that won’t get rejected. They are really two sides of the same coin.
They are both scared little kids at heart. They just have different strategies to make sure their fears never come true.
How to escape?
To get out of this dead end dichotomy, just don’t let anyone turn you down.
He says he likes cats. Do you like dogs. what a thing They both like different things. If she says you’re an idiot because you like dogs and she laughs at you, who’s the real idiot?
Here is a common real world example.
Flaking, or being late.
Good reaction from the boy:
Tell him it’s okay. He wants to show her how patient he is. He pats himself on the back for being so virtuous.
jerk reaction:
He yells at her for an hour, makes her feel like shit.
Alfa male:
After ten minutes, he leaves. She realizes that if she isn’t interested enough in him to get there in time, she isn’t worth pursuing.
How do you become an alpha male? Simply express yourself and allow others to respond to you. Don’t try to change anyone. Just always be on the lookout for people who appreciate you for who you are. If they do, great. If they don’t, no problem. There is much more.
Now, depending on how comfortable you are in your own skin, this can take a while to become unconscious and automatic.
Without worries. Just take your time. Developing a true alpha mindset is one of the crucial things you can do in your life. It’s not going to happen overnight.
But if you continue to focus on your interactions with the world, you will slowly move in this direction.
