It’s no secret that Millennials are “starting” life later than all previous generations. From the start of their careers to moving houses, engagements and marriages; most major life milestones are happening well into your 30s. How does this affect the process of buying an engagement ring?
Traditionally, the man meets the woman, falls in love with the woman, asks her parents for permission to propose, buys an engagement ring, and asks her to marry him. With this forward-thinking generation, a step away from the traditional and towards a more involved approach has been taken. Since Millennials are more “mature” in age, compared to the average age of engaged couples in the past, they arguably know more about what they want and don’t want. Women are expressing the need to be involved in the process so that their future fiancé does not make a mistake!
I’ve seen everything from a couple equally and happily involved in the selection process, hand-in-hand, excited about their future, to a very opinionated woman on Facetime from work demanding what she wants while her passive boyfriend sits on the couch. our showroom ready with credit card. in hand. I’m not here to judge, but I will say this: It should be a mutual decision that you’re both happy with. This new wave of couples choosing an engagement ring together deserves a lot of discussion because it can be either very right or very wrong.
There is room for compromise. You are the traditional type of man. You want to woo her and surprise her with that magical moment, big reveal. She, however, is a modern girl who would like to have a say in how her ring will look. If she has her heart set on her seeing the ring for the first time when she opens the box, there is a way to make them both happy. You and your love can make a list of all the things that she would love to see in her ring. Before going out on her own, she can also go window shopping. Ask her to point out some ideal rings. She thus feels that she has been active in the process and that her voice has been heard. You are happy because you are not flying blind and still sticking to some tradition.
Create another bonding memory. If the above suggestion didn’t hit the mark, maybe sharing this moment together is the way to go. In fact, this could bring them closer together. Venturing to different jewelry stores to find the perfect ring as a couple can end up being another beautiful memory in your love story. You can see her eyes light up with excitement and anticipation as she chooses from the many options before her. She can see the desire in your eyes, wishing that this is the beginning of their happiness together forever.
You define what “perfect” is. There is no right or wrong in this momentous occasion. Only the two of you can decide what is perfect for you and stick with it. Forgive those who have their own opinions. After all, in the end, it will be you and her writing the story of your lives together. Make sure it’s one you want to read over and over again!
