Bail! Please note that online dating is not a completely secure environment. Be very careful when investing your money, time and heart into it.
o Only use a free email account. By using your email accounts with sites like Yahoo, Gmail, Bigfoot, and Hotmail, you can easily communicate while keeping your local email secure. Consider hard-to-guess passwords that are different from your login name.
o Avoid creating a profile name that gives a clue as to where you are and who you are. Choose a nickname that is simple but away from your true identity, to prevent unwanted people from accessing your personal information.
Also, avoid revealing too much personal information when filling out your profile, as it usually appears automatically.
When in an online conversation:
o Guarantee secrecy. Please note that never expose or provide your personal information such as full name, address, phone number and email address to anyone. Anyone who asks you this early in the conversation, take it as a warning. You are in control here and can stop communicating when you feel uncomfortable.
Many sites offer a messaging system that can be used to communicate with singles. Using this system is more secure than using your email.
o Remain anonymous. Don’t give out personal information easily. During communications, ask questions. Ask him about his hobbies, education, career, and interests. Take note of all of this, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent. If they are not consistent, they are probably not being honest with you and not worth your time.
Be honest. Likewise, be honest enough, but at the same time don’t give too much information when it comes to your work and home address. Just be honest with your conversations. Convey your intentions as clearly as possible. And if you don’t like it, tell him politely. Don’t make excuses and give him the impression that you are interested in meeting him.
or Be sure. If after many emails, you both feel it’s time to talk on the phone, the man should be the one to give the girl her number and the girl should be the one to call the man. The girl should never give out her phone number.
or be protected. When you’re definitely sure you’d like to meet the person offline, ask for references, such as their friends, relatives, or coworkers. This is not to give them the feeling that you don’t trust them, but if they trust you too, they will understand that you are very willing to meet with him, but just want to be sure. If he has a genuine and sincere interest in you and he has nothing to fear, then he should not repel you, but willingly give you all the information.
You can also do a background check. There are sites that offer this for free.
The meeting:
o Inform someone of the meeting. When the plan for a meeting is in place, be sure to tell your friend or family member exactly where you are going and who you are meeting.
o Bring your cell phone, so that in an emergency, you can call your friend right away.
o Use common sense and judge accordingly.
o Meet him or her in a public place like a cafe, a park, a museum, or wherever there are a lot of people.
Do’s and don’ts on your first date:
o Pray before a date (for Christians)
o Be punctual.
o Look good and be neat.
o Give compliments.
o Make your appointment comfortable.
or listen.
o Talk about something you have a common interest in (for Christians, talk about Bible verses and ask each other’s opinions).
o Take it to your church (for Christians).
o Make it an exciting date. Listen to your date and be sure to make him feel that you are interested in everything he has to say.
o Ask your date about his hobbies, career, and future plans.
or Be romantic.
o Enjoy your moment together.
o Laugh at their jokes.
or Be yourself.
o Avoid touching.
not to do
o Don’t be late.
o Do not talk about your past relationship.
or do not pretend
o Don’t ask too many questions.
o Do not show disrespect for your partner’s beliefs.
o Don’t forget to say thank you after the appointment.
